By Lisa 
There is a song that goes “when you’re in love with a beautiful woman, you know it’s hard. Everybody wants her, everybody loves her, everybody wants to take your baby home…”
It’s hard loving someone and not being jealous of potential competitors. Especially in those first few months of kissy kissy smoochy smoochy feelings, you feel like you will absolutely DIE if they leave you for someone else.
Jealousy can make people act crazy. It can make you wish you had just stayed home. It can also destroy your relationship. No one wants to be questioned about every person of the opposite sex who glances their way or every phone call or text. It gets old really quickly.
But you can conquer your green eyed monster. But first things first.
DO YOU HAVE A VALID REASON TO BE JEALOUS? Has this person ever given you a reason to be jealous? Has he cheated in the past?
If so, you have a reason to feel jealous–however you do not have to live in green eyed monster land forever. The solution is to repair or run. You choose.
Run: The running solution is easy to understand–basically don’t let the door hit you in the hiney, have a nice life, etc. etc. The repair solution is more difficult.
Repair: There are three steps to getting through this and they involve the cheater first:
ADMIT the cheating
APOLOGIZE for hurting the relationship and the person
BE ACCOUNTABLE by using solutions that avoid future cheating as well as the appearance of cheating.
Note that the overall relationship does not just resolve itself overnight. The person wronged has every right to be angry and hurt. The cheater must acknowledge the pain caused and the person wronged must accept their apology and agree to the accountability terms. It is still shaky ground, but some relationships do survive and some do come back stronger.
BTW, if the cheater does not do any of the above reparations, acts like it is your fault, laughs it off, lies, or keeps doing the cheating, why the heck are you with someone you have to watch like a hawk? That is a major character flaw and YOU DESERVE BETTER. Nuff said. Dump him or her and move on.
IF THERE IS NO REASON FOR YOUR JEALOUSY, IT IS YOUR ISSUE. Don’t make it his issue because you are insecure. What to do?
Immediately change your thinking from emotional to logical. If you have to get away from the situation in order to keep your mouth closed (and keep you from doing something stupid) do so. Go outside, excuse yourself to go potty, you get the idea.
ASK YOURSELF: Is there something he does that triggers your jealousy? (NOTE: if he is sneaking out alone with someone else, texting or phoning another female, etc. this really ISN’T your issue other than to get him the heck out of your life. Character flaw alert.)
If he is a naturally flirtatious, gregarious, outgoing kind of person it may just be his personality and completely harmless. Talk to him alone (later) about how it makes you feel and see if you can come to some sort of agreement about behavior, perceptions, etc. The issue still may be yours and sometimes you just have to accept that he is simply more outgoing but the interactions are harmless. You can’t expect anyone to change their entire personality just because you feel jealous without cause.
ASK YOURSELF: Do you get more attention when you act jealous? Attention can be addicting, even negative attention. Be honest with yourself and realize there are other ways to get attention. And Girl, if he is your guy, you know what to do! Flirt with him, don’t fight.
ASK YOURSELF: Do you feel like every woman, especially the prettier ones, are after him and he will dump you for them? Have a gut check here and remind yourself who he came here with and who he is going home with.
He chose YOU. Remember that.